Secrets

It’s taken me two years to post this. I kept it in draft all this time ignoring it. I now feel it’s a safe space among us bloggers and readers to post. There is nothing to hide.

I was standing at a bus stop holding my face up to the sun thinking about current relations in my life when suddenly I realized just how many events and experiences in my life have been kept a secret! How many relationships held a secret in one way or another. I was standing there just floored by the sudden thought… the pattern just never occurred to me.

Especially men, my fathers violence towards my mother, my suppressed marriage, my first new relationship after ending a 16 year marriage, and finally my new found love and discovering his addiction to alcohol that regrettably took his life 15 years ago.

Secrets kept are not healthy, when secrets are held within they will begin to simmer, then boil and gradually overflow or explode and thats when it becomes dangerous. There is resentment, grudges and hateful feelings not only to the significant other you are keeping the secret about but to your precious self as well. There will be damage. It’s destructive. You can’t stay boxed in holding on to the secret, because to suppress your feelings and not let your feelings be told only turns negative itself and creates a weakness. One way or another you will be affected. The positive side to this cause and effect is if you catch it in time you can rebel and reveal the truth, reconcile in time before there is too much damage done. You can break away from the solitude, it won’t be easy, their will be challenges but in the long run you will be set free!

Set yourself free!

I’m unlocking one more secret….after all secrets of love is not meant to be hidden only celebrated. I have to make a choice. I’m beginning to feel the freedom.

I am strong, I can do this.

I’m here.

love eva

Thinking Outside the Box vs. Inside the Box, Which Came First?

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I remember when I first heard the phrase ‘Think Outside the Box ‘…   I was astonished because I thought to myself at the time “there’s a box and I have been thinking from within in it?” My reaction was  “Oh how liberating, I’m going to set myself free and think outside the ‘box!”
But then all along as I tried my hardest to be liberal and think alternatively with an open mind, I came across another saying that stated, ‘No need to think outside the box… there isn’t one”
What? Well, you can’t imagine how double free I felt when I read that quote… actually, come to think of it, which came first? Were we born in a ‘box’ and now need to crawl out or we’re we always free and the theory or concept placed us within it? Suddenly realizing to myself all this time the box theory was really quite controlling…it has restraints on our creativity, a bit stunting or stagnating. Interesting isn’t it at just how the opposite happened… at least for me.
So what am I trying to say ?
Let your vision soar, let it fly like an eagle without fear of limitations. Be free and dream away without any rules or restrictions. You’re mind excels way beyond any box, in fact it’s unlimited. You are unlimited !!