Secrets

It’s taken me two years to post this. I kept it in draft all this time ignoring it. I now feel it’s a safe space among us bloggers and readers to post. There is nothing to hide.

I was standing at a bus stop holding my face up to the sun thinking about current relations in my life when suddenly I realized just how many events and experiences in my life have been kept a secret! How many relationships held a secret in one way or another. I was standing there just floored by the sudden thought… the pattern just never occurred to me.

Especially men, my fathers violence towards my mother, my suppressed marriage, my first new relationship after ending a 16 year marriage, and finally my new found love and discovering his addiction to alcohol that regrettably took his life 15 years ago.

Secrets kept are not healthy, when secrets are held within they will begin to simmer, then boil and gradually overflow or explode and thats when it becomes dangerous. There is resentment, grudges and hateful feelings not only to the significant other you are keeping the secret about but to your precious self as well. There will be damage. It’s destructive. You can’t stay boxed in holding on to the secret, because to suppress your feelings and not let your feelings be told only turns negative itself and creates a weakness. One way or another you will be affected. The positive side to this cause and effect is if you catch it in time you can rebel and reveal the truth, reconcile in time before there is too much damage done. You can break away from the solitude, it won’t be easy, their will be challenges but in the long run you will be set free!

Set yourself free!

I’m unlocking one more secret….after all secrets of love is not meant to be hidden only celebrated. I have to make a choice. I’m beginning to feel the freedom.

I am strong, I can do this.

I’m here.

love eva

Celebrate Women

To me it reflects a beautiful image of our power within. borrowed from social media-So beautiful, Thank you for sharing!

My message

Happy International Women’s Day!

I believe in the power of our voice and the power we hold within! We are the change and we make the difference! Women unite for we are the force of the future!

This is to all the women warriors in the family! To my beautiful daughters Amira and Karima and amazing granddaughter Nariah! Not to forget Nona, the Queen of Warriors ! My girl friends Corina, Carmen, Astarte. Jayne, Judith, my distant missed cousins and awesome neighbours and my super team of women I have the privilege to work with at my workplace!
May the Force be with you all,  always!

With Love Eva

 This image borrowed from social media-So beautiful, Thank you for sharing!

Women Kind

  This newspaper clipping saved from decades ago just about explains it all! It makes me think of just how Women are indeed one… yes, one of a kind! Mankind had us believing we are a separate entity from the whole, incomplete and lesser without the other half. But, we know that not only are we complete, all powerful, and perfect just as we are, we are also the new force and voice of our times!

A toast to all women and our independence! A toast to our voice! May we never be shutdown again! And a toast to the rest of the world that hears us, supports us and make way for us. There is a lot of work to be done and a mess to clean up, make room because here we are!!

Happy International Women’s Day Week!