It’s taken me two years to post this. I kept it in draft all this time ignoring it. I now feel it’s a safe space among us bloggers and readers to post. There is nothing to hide.
I was standing at a bus stop holding my face up to the sun thinking about current relations in my life when suddenly I realized just how many events and experiences in my life have been kept a secret! How many relationships held a secret in one way or another. I was standing there just floored by the sudden thought… the pattern just never occurred to me.
Especially men, my fathers violence towards my mother, my suppressed marriage, my first new relationship after ending a 16 year marriage, and finally my new found love and discovering his addiction to alcohol that regrettably took his life 15 years ago.
Secrets kept are not healthy, when secrets are held within they will begin to simmer, then boil and gradually overflow or explode and thats when it becomes dangerous. There is resentment, grudges and hateful feelings not only to the significant other you are keeping the secret about but to your precious self as well. There will be damage. It’s destructive. You can’t stay boxed in holding on to the secret, because to suppress your feelings and not let your feelings be told only turns negative itself and creates a weakness. One way or another you will be affected. The positive side to this cause and effect is if you catch it in time you can rebel and reveal the truth, reconcile in time before there is too much damage done. You can break away from the solitude, it won’t be easy, their will be challenges but in the long run you will be set free!
Set yourself free!
I’m unlocking one more secret….after all secrets of love is not meant to be hidden only celebrated. I have to make a choice. I’m beginning to feel the freedom.
I am strong, I can do this.
What’s your goal?
Do you have a one year plan, a two or five year plan? Do you know what you want to accomplish today, by the end of the week or month, year?
Creating a vision or an image to focus on is helpful. The vision of your choice reminds you of what you want, what you desire and all your must do. It’s not about materialism, it is about dreams and dreams feel good because they do come true. We want to feel good don’t we? You have every right to your dreams. You have the right to be happy! Believe it!
Do you love someone and want to sustain your love for each other? Do you want realistic windows of opportunities for a better life for you, for your family and future?
What does your vision look like? What colors do you see? What surrounds your vision and who is there? Which words would you use, what do the words mean to you? Do they speak to you, is it meaningful?
It makes you smile, right?
Set your goals, take the time, it’s your time. Collect your images and words and colours. Because not only is it’s your time… it’s your personal vision and only your life to cultivate. Nurture it!
You will be surprised at what comes together.
The photos are of a recent community group. We really didn’t have very much time for our boards but the sharing was beautiful. I encouraged to take their boards home and continue building on it if they felt the need to do so.
Each person shared their passion with stars in their eyes and energy and I can see before my very eyes their power come alive! Let your light shine!
Canadian You Tuber and vlogger, Lilly Singh known as IISuperwomanII is a great model for our youth that speaks and writes in her new book “How To Be A Bawse: A Guide To Conquering Life“. She talks about owning your own power, respecting and investing in yourself along with messages about staying true to yourself and not to change for anyone. Singh was in Vancouver back in April and I had the pleasure to see her show and was quite impressed! I was with my granddaughter Nariah and was proud to be part of her passion. The best part was the following day Nariah trekked out in the early morning determined to meet Singh at the book signing event at Chapters book store out at Metrotown and was fortunate enough to have her picture taken with Lilly Singh. A powerful moment of positive change for my granddaughter and powerful empowering messages for all the lovely young youth that follow IISuperwomanII.
Be the Bawse of YOU! I love it!