Secrets

It’s taken me two years to post this. I kept it in draft all this time ignoring it. I now feel it’s a safe space among us bloggers and readers to post. There is nothing to hide.

I was standing at a bus stop holding my face up to the sun thinking about current relations in my life when suddenly I realized just how many events and experiences in my life have been kept a secret! How many relationships held a secret in one way or another. I was standing there just floored by the sudden thought… the pattern just never occurred to me.

Especially men, my fathers violence towards my mother, my suppressed marriage, my first new relationship after ending a 16 year marriage, and finally my new found love and discovering his addiction to alcohol that regrettably took his life 15 years ago.

Secrets kept are not healthy, when secrets are held within they will begin to simmer, then boil and gradually overflow or explode and thats when it becomes dangerous. There is resentment, grudges and hateful feelings not only to the significant other you are keeping the secret about but to your precious self as well. There will be damage. It’s destructive. You can’t stay boxed in holding on to the secret, because to suppress your feelings and not let your feelings be told only turns negative itself and creates a weakness. One way or another you will be affected. The positive side to this cause and effect is if you catch it in time you can rebel and reveal the truth, reconcile in time before there is too much damage done. You can break away from the solitude, it won’t be easy, their will be challenges but in the long run you will be set free!

Set yourself free!

I’m unlocking one more secret….after all secrets of love is not meant to be hidden only celebrated. I have to make a choice. I’m beginning to feel the freedom.

I am strong, I can do this.

I’m here.

love eva

Goal Settings

What’s your goal?

Do you have a one year plan, a two or five year plan? Do you know what you want to accomplish today, by the end of the week or month, year?

Creating a vision or an image to focus on is helpful. The vision of your choice reminds you of what you want, what you desire and all your must do. It’s not about materialism, it is about dreams and dreams feel good because they do come true. We want to feel good don’t we? You have every right to your dreams. You have the right to be happy! Believe it!

Do you love someone and want to sustain your love for each other? Do you want realistic windows of opportunities for a better life for you, for your family and future?

What does your vision look like? What colors do you see? What surrounds your vision and who is there? Which words would you use, what do the words mean to you? Do they speak to you, is it meaningful?

It makes you smile, right?

Set your goals, take the time, it’s your time. Collect your images and words and colours. Because not only is it’s your time… it’s your personal vision and only your life to cultivate. Nurture it!

You will be surprised at what comes together.

The photos are of a recent community group. We really didn’t have very much time for our boards but the sharing was beautiful. I encouraged to take their boards home and continue building on it if they felt the need to do so.

Each person shared their passion with stars in their eyes and energy and I can see before my very eyes their power come alive! Let your light shine!

love eva

Stairway to Love

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Love grows one step at a time. Love is an energy that provides us opportunities to do better, to learn from our mistakes, to understand our pain, heal and supports us to carry on. It’s love’s energy that labours at all our endeavours and challenges and like a stairway to a higher understanding awaits for us to reach out to it but it takes patience, awareness and mindfulness. We can achieve all we aspire with love as our foundation. Know that love is always there for us, around us, surrounds us, and grows through our lifetime one step at at time.

Stand By Me

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Oh those subtle things in life, the little things that matter and makes an impact on our existence.  I found this poem Believe In Yourself in a tucked away box of trinkets and memories. As I pulled this poem out I remembered the day my sweet loving mother gave it to me… I think I was in my late teens maybe early twenties. As the memory began to surface a deep sense of love swept over me because on that day when I read the words it resonated deep in me, it was like a moment of awe… an inspiration spark of hope that everything is going to be okay, its going to turn out, keep on reaching for your dreams.

My message of today is to share with others your most precious moment that gave you strength and lift you. I share this poem to you and you can move it forward on to someone dear to you, it doesn’t matter how young or old. You never know when such a gesture can change a persons life in a positive way. My mother is still as impact full today as she was then. Thanks mom for always believing in me. You are awesome and indeed one of a kind, I love you♥

 

 

I Who Did Not Die

img_1799  An inspiring book based on two soldiers of the Iran Iraq War written by Meredith May.
Najah an Iraqi soldier left for dead was saved by Zahed a young Iranian medic soldier on the battle field. Both imprisoned as POW, both were claimed dead by their families, both held on to their dreams to a point of manifestation!
One wonders after all the pain, fear, tears, lost and broken spirit how these two soldiers miraculously stayed alive and freed their way out of hell and into the hands of Canada’s haven.  Twenty five years later, here in this beautiful city of Vancouver, the two soldiers find themselves sitting across from each other in the lobby of a non profit organization VAST (Vancouver Association of Survivors of  Torture).  Now the recollection of the past have been written….the untold story is now unfolded….in fact this story will give you renewed hope in humanity. An example of the power of positive change respectfully.

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Photos of the day the book signing took place at Chapters located Broadway/Granville St. Holding hands in a victorious gesture are Najah and Zahed

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On this day the family and friends gathered to support them. it was indeed a memorable and proud day:)

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What Rocks You?

Many years ago while sitting with a co-worker and sharing my passion and dream of how I would like to some day run empowerment workshops to encourage people to follow their hearts. At the time I had a long list of names I would call it such as, Power of Women or just, POW or HEART…. I think I even thought of my own name EVA with each letter representing words of enlightment and abundance…. any way, I was going on about my vision so close to my heart and the difference we can make for others and the simplicity of it. I  told her I know its possible because I myself have discovered, encountered and experienced enough to believe in the power of visions. Then for some weird reason, I reached down into the side cushion of the couch I was sitting on and felt  a rock nuzzled deep within the couch, I pulled it out and on it was written  Strength and Power with a bears paw stamped on it. I just looked at her surprised and she said to me with astonishment, I think you just made your case!”

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I carry that rock with me whenever I need  reminding of the possibilities life offers us and, to sustain my dreams and visions.

What rocks you?

Share with me your power…what makes you strong and fuels you to carry on?