Secrets

It’s taken me two years to post this. I kept it in draft all this time ignoring it. I now feel it’s a safe space among us bloggers and readers to post. There is nothing to hide.

I was standing at a bus stop holding my face up to the sun thinking about current relations in my life when suddenly I realized just how many events and experiences in my life have been kept a secret! How many relationships held a secret in one way or another. I was standing there just floored by the sudden thought… the pattern just never occurred to me.

Especially men, my fathers violence towards my mother, my suppressed marriage, my first new relationship after ending a 16 year marriage, and finally my new found love and discovering his addiction to alcohol that regrettably took his life 15 years ago.

Secrets kept are not healthy, when secrets are held within they will begin to simmer, then boil and gradually overflow or explode and thats when it becomes dangerous. There is resentment, grudges and hateful feelings not only to the significant other you are keeping the secret about but to your precious self as well. There will be damage. It’s destructive. You can’t stay boxed in holding on to the secret, because to suppress your feelings and not let your feelings be told only turns negative itself and creates a weakness. One way or another you will be affected. The positive side to this cause and effect is if you catch it in time you can rebel and reveal the truth, reconcile in time before there is too much damage done. You can break away from the solitude, it won’t be easy, their will be challenges but in the long run you will be set free!

Set yourself free!

I’m unlocking one more secret….after all secrets of love is not meant to be hidden only celebrated. I have to make a choice. I’m beginning to feel the freedom.

I am strong, I can do this.

I’m here.

love eva

I Who Did Not Die

img_1799  An inspiring book based on two soldiers of the Iran Iraq War written by Meredith May.
Najah an Iraqi soldier left for dead was saved by Zahed a young Iranian medic soldier on the battle field. Both imprisoned as POW, both were claimed dead by their families, both held on to their dreams to a point of manifestation!
One wonders after all the pain, fear, tears, lost and broken spirit how these two soldiers miraculously stayed alive and freed their way out of hell and into the hands of Canada’s haven.  Twenty five years later, here in this beautiful city of Vancouver, the two soldiers find themselves sitting across from each other in the lobby of a non profit organization VAST (Vancouver Association of Survivors of  Torture).  Now the recollection of the past have been written….the untold story is now unfolded….in fact this story will give you renewed hope in humanity. An example of the power of positive change respectfully.

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Photos of the day the book signing took place at Chapters located Broadway/Granville St. Holding hands in a victorious gesture are Najah and Zahed

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On this day the family and friends gathered to support them. it was indeed a memorable and proud day:)

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Thinking Outside the Box vs. Inside the Box, Which Came First?

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I remember when I first heard the phrase ‘Think Outside the Box ‘…   I was astonished because I thought to myself at the time “there’s a box and I have been thinking from within in it?” My reaction was  “Oh how liberating, I’m going to set myself free and think outside the ‘box!”
But then all along as I tried my hardest to be liberal and think alternatively with an open mind, I came across another saying that stated, ‘No need to think outside the box… there isn’t one”
What? Well, you can’t imagine how double free I felt when I read that quote… actually, come to think of it, which came first? Were we born in a ‘box’ and now need to crawl out or we’re we always free and the theory or concept placed us within it? Suddenly realizing to myself all this time the box theory was really quite controlling…it has restraints on our creativity, a bit stunting or stagnating. Interesting isn’t it at just how the opposite happened… at least for me.
So what am I trying to say ?
Let your vision soar, let it fly like an eagle without fear of limitations. Be free and dream away without any rules or restrictions. You’re mind excels way beyond any box, in fact it’s unlimited. You are unlimited !!